Stay with me on this one. There is an excellent point for coaches and parents buried here. Sport is stressful. Some sports - tennis - brutally so. Coaches and parents get this so surely we make an active effort to deescalate and help kids to maintain emotional stability and reserve currency for the important moments?? Nope, parents are at least as unstable and reactive as their children and sometimes more so. Our kids learn to feel hard done by and powerless from us. Our kids learn to feel hard done by and powerless from us.
I wanted to link to the original Mark Manson article (referenced by Peter FitzSimons) but I doubt it would get by the FB moderators. Mark's thesis is simple: you have a limited amount of emotional energy to spend, so think carefully about where and when you spend it. Most of what irritates us is not worth the bother. Get your head around this and then teach it to your children. A shameful number of children fail to get even close to their athletic potential because they learn, from us, how to collapse under pressure. It's not about when you should care but when (and why) you shouldn't.
Apologies in advance for the language in one of these links:
http://www.smh.com.au/sport/kyrgios-tomic-hayne-thurston-the-ways-sportspeople-do-and-do-not-give-a-f-20170920-gyl8y2.html
https://markmanson.net/not-giving-a-fuck
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